Green Team: The Wills’
Our Infertility Story, as told by Holly:
Ray and I were married in April of 2008…we had a storybook wedding in the Dominican Republic surrounded by close friends and family. I recall Ray whispering in my ear during a slow dance that now we could finally start our family. Everything was falling into place and we were starting our journey to becoming a family.
After six months of trying with no success, we sought out a fertility specialist. On Dec 30, 2008, we did our second IUI and we were elated to find out it worked. Needless to say, the next few months proved to be a roller coaster ride of hope and fear…ultrasounds were showing signs of growth restriction but doctors could find no reason for it and eventually despite all of our prayers, our precious little girl Isabella’s heart stopped beating on May 13th 2009 at 21 weeks.
Extensive testing later diagnosed me with a blood clotting disorder called MTHFR which can affect blood flow to a growing fetus. Through the grief of our loss there was hope that we could get pregnant again and the MTHFR was something that could be dealt with. Since IUI’s worked initially we stayed on that path but after 8 months of living life in 2 week intervals, drugs, and crazy hormones we knew we had to move on to something with a higher success rate.
IVF was a difficult decision as it felt more “unnatural” but our hearts desired a baby more than anything. After a few failed rounds, we decided to take an emotional and physical break and regroup. On July 4th 2012, a very unexpected miracle occurred…we were pregnant all on our own! We just knew this one was meant to be and we had such high hopes we immediately shared the great news with close friends and family. Our first ultrasound showed a strong heartbeat and we were finally going to have our dream child, unfortunately, the second ultrasound ended our dreams of a family.
Feeling emotionally and physically drained, we’ve been trying to live life to the fullest and find happiness but the desire to have a baby will not fade. When Jenn brought up the idea of having a “Race to Parenthood” we felt inexplicably drawn to do this and feel a tiny glimpse of renewed hope…this may be our last chance at a lifelong dream…I am 40 and Ray is 44 so the window of opportunity is closing fast. The support of our family and friends is so important to us throughout this journey. When you are faced with the challenge of infertility, you surprise yourself at what you are willing to do to fill the hole in your heart…we never thought we would be here but we are anticipating a positive experience including new friendships, infertility awareness that may help others, and ultimately with all your love, support, and prayers, the best possible outcome of having a baby of our own.
Update June 2015: Holly and Ray welcomed Grayson Palmer on June 21, 2015 (Father’s Day!) at 5:56PM, weighing 5lbs 15oz! Even though Grayson made his entrance 5 weeks early, he’s healthy and happy!