Purple Team: The Placides
Our Infertility Story, as told by Melissa:
Mike and I met many years ago in Baltimore, where we are both originally from. After a brief time working for the same company, our lives took us in different directions, Mike to St. Louis for Chiropractic School and me to Florida. During that time, we both thought of the other person until one day, our paths crossed again. Our timing was almost perfect! Mike relocated to Richmond to join a Chiropractic Practice and I moved to Northern Virginia, working in hospice. We kept in contact and eventually started to travel on weekends to spend time together – an amazing relationship grew out of friendship.
One weekend, while I was here in Richmond visiting, we decided to go out for a nice dinner at The Tobacco Co. Little did I know, Mike had contacted my father and asked for his blessing. He proposed that evening and I ecstatically accepted! I quickly made my plans to relocate to Richmond. We were married in Jamaica in 2006, bought a house and a business – all within 6 months! Talk about whip-lash!
We will have been married for 7 years on December 7, 2013 and been trying to conceive ever since. At first, we were casual about it, never dreaming that it would be a struggle. Finally, we decided to have ourselves checked out medically to see if there was a reason pregnancy was not occurring. We took every test offered and were put in the “unexplained infertility” category. Being the type of girl that will tackle any challenge that comes my way, we met with a fertility specialist and immediately planned a round of IVF. Unfortunately, that resulted in a “chemical pregnancy” which quickly became no pregnancy at all. The doctor’s thoughts were that it could be age related; as I was approaching the age of 40 at the time and the quality of my eggs were “too mature”.
Over the next year, or so, we tried on our own – you never know! God works in mysterious ways! We then tried two rounds of Artificial Insemination with no luck. After that, I think we needed an emotional and financial break from the experience. Our hearts were broken, as was our bank account. So, we took some time to think about why this was happening, or not happening, to us. Maybe God had other plans for us and a child was not on our path in life. But, after digging really deep, we realized that it just couldn’t be true.
We have so much love to share with a child, so much life experience and lessons to be taught. There truly is nothing more important in life than family. Nothing more important that raising a child, watching that child grow and guiding them through life with love, faith and family.
So, we have contacted another fertility center and have plans to do another round of IVF, but this time, using donor eggs. This will give us the best shot of conceiving since we are getting older – I am 44 and Mike just turned 48 – time is NOT on our side!
We are so thankful and blessed to be chosen to be a part of Race for Parenthood! I have hope now, something that I have not had for a very long time.