PURPLE TEAM: THE FARBERS
Our Story, as told by Sarah:
Brent and I grew up in the same neighborhood our entire lives but were officially introduced through a mutual friend when I was sixteen and he was eighteen! We instantly became inseparable, and five years later Brent proposed. We got married in May 2016, and we began trying to start our family right away because we knew with the PCOS that it might not happen easily for us.
I started having issues when I was sixteen years old. I had an ovarian cyst the size of a tennis ball removed and after that I often felt like something was wrong due to the constant pain and inflammation. I went to the doctor countless times thinking I had another cyst just to be told there wasn’t anything there except a large amount of small follicles and they would send me on my way without any explanation. This went on for a few years. After I stopped having cycles, they pieced everything together; my doctor diagnosed me with Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome and started me on metformin. When I was finally given the diagnosis, I was handed a pamphlet on PCOS and the first word that caught my attention was “infertility” and my heart sank right away. I discovered then that there was a possibility and sat in my car crying about the what ifs but nothing prepared us for it becoming our heartbreaking reality.
After nine months of trying on our own, we quickly sought out a reproductive endocrinologist because we knew with my history we should seek help sooner rather than later. We’ve tried multiple rounds of Letrozole, Clomid, and Gonal F which have mostly resulted in ovulation but not a single pregnancy. After three IUIs we decided to take a break from treatments until we have the funds put together for IVF to increase our chances.
I’m a childcare provider so my entire life is revolved around helping raise everyone else’s children. We even had ten children in our wedding! We’ve always desired to have a large family but at this point we would be over the moon with one miracle baby. I can’t wait to become a mother, but more than anything I can’t wait for Brent to become the devoted father I know he will be! He has already committed to working extra shifts every chance he gets and takes on as many side jobs that come his way. He is set on making IVF a reality for us and for that I’m extremely grateful.
We’re vocal about our situation and I think it’s great to be a voice for couples who aren’t so comfortable being open about their infertility. It’s often seen as such a taboo subject and I think it’s important to break those barriers and talk about it. I’m very comfortable with people asking questions about PCOS, medications, and procedures because I want to educate as many people as I can on not only the physical toll this has on my body, but the financial and emotional toll it has on our marriage. This is something that could either make or break a relationship, but it has most definitely brought Brent and I even closer together even when the going gets tough. We have such a huge support system behind us which is a great feeling. I think a lot of people are hesitant to come forward about their infertility because they’re worried about people saying the wrong things. When I first posted publicly about our situation we had an overwhelming amount of support but a few hurtful, but well intended responses. At first I was bothered, but then I realized it was my job to let people know what my emotional triggers are to prevent not only myself from hurting but the next couple who comes forward about their infertility in the future. With that being said, we are very excited to be a featured couple in The Race to Parenthood and we will take advantage of using our platform to continue educating our friends and family while bringing everyone together!
Learn more about IVF as a path to parenthood – click here.
Learn more about PCOS – click here.